Is it Abuse?

Does your partner:

• share information with others that makes you look like someone you’re not?

• get hurt and feel unappreciated when he surprises you with a “gift”?

• use what you’ve learned in counseling against you?

• turn a conversation about what they did into a conversation about your reaction to what they did?

• use their words to shut you down?

• ever lay their hands on you in anger?

• have the ability to be nice to everyone else but you?

• appear gentle and sensitive to others but can be cruel with you?

• accuse you of cheating on them when you’ve never given them reason?

• lie to you about things that make no sense?

• get angry when they don’t feel you’ve appreciated what they’ve done for you?

• force you or coerce you to have sex with them?

• accuse you of not being able to take a joke?

• accuse you of not being able to leave things in the past?

• question why you can’t just let it go?

• tell you it’s not that big of a deal?

• tell you you’re making something out of nothing?

• apologize for your reaction to their behavior, rather than for their behavior?

• tell you if you hadn’t done what you did, they wouldn’t have done what they did?

• OR, tell you if you had done what they wanted, they wouldn’t have done what they did?

• lack consistency between what they say, and what they actually do?

• expect something in return when they do something “nice” for you?

• get angry when they feel you haven’t done enough to show them appreciation?

  What is that still small voice inside telling you?